If you do this, she will probably cheat on you!

Meeting that special girl is really a beautiful experience. You feel so good spending time with her and just thinking about her.

Sometimes you meet someone and you feel like you want to spend the rest of your life with her. That’s great but there might be a problem… if she doesn’t feel exactly the same.

Have you ever been in a situation where you really wanted to be with a girl but she said she was confused, or wasn’t sure etc.

What did you do? Did you try to convince her to be your girlfirend/wife? Did you, kind of, force her to enter a relationship with you?

If you did you probably know the outcome of such actions.

You may have been either completely rejected or ended up in relationship in which you constantly felt insecure. You were never sure about whether or not she was honest with you. Maybe you even felt like she could leave you any moment.

The thing is, a relationship of any kind requires a certain level of commitment. The only way a commitment works is if whoever makes it does so on their own accord.

In other words, if you “push” somebody to make a decision chances are, they will not follow through with it because it wasn’t fully their own choice.

Are you with me?

You may want to ask me “But, Jean Paul, if I don’t push her, I may not get her to be my girlfriend. Am I not supposed to be persistent?”

Well, first of all, it’s true, you may not get the girl. However, is it not better to let someone go if they are not really interested in you? How do you feel when someone pushes you to be in a relationship?

As far as persistence is concerned, in this context it may not be the best option. Personally, I prefer to date girls who put effort into meeting me and interacting with me.

Bottom line is, if someone doesn’t make a concious decision to be with you, your best option may be to look at other options.